Summary of Why Men Are the Way They Are

• Is it possible for the sexes to hear each other without saying, “My powerlessness is greater than your powerlessness”? P. xx
• The fundamental feminist false assumption: Female powerlessness meant male power. P .xxi
• Instead of understanding male powerlessness we had come to understand only the female experience of male power. P. xxii
• It took me seventeen years to understand that men do not become more loveable until they are understood. P. xxii
• Men tuned into women but not tuned into their own hurts usually retained the attitude that women needed special protection. P. xxii
• Strict ideology is for women what macho is for men. P. xxiii
• Confessing feelings that risk rejection is genuine vulnerability. P. xxvi
• Women’s vulnerability confessing their desire to see men as a success object is matched by men’s confession of compulsiveness of sexual desire for women. P. xxvi
• Each theme in this book evolved from examination of actual behavior as opposed to claimed behavior. P. xxx
• Women’s desires were an important ingredient in determining why men are the way they are. P. xxxi